Whats life all about...

something I found while bloghopping


Life isn't about keeping score...
It's not about how many friends you have.
Or how many people call you, or how accepted or unaccepted you are.
Not about if you have plans this weekend, or if you're alone.
It isn't about who you're dating, or who you used to date,
how many people you've dated, or if you haven't been with anyone at all.
It isn't about who your family is, or how much money they have.
Or what kind of car they drive.....

It's not about how beautiful or ugly you are.
Not about what clothes you wear, what shoes you have on,
or the kind of music you listen to....
It's not about if your hair is blonde, red, black, brown, or green.
Or if your skin is too light or too dark.

Its not about how good you are at "your" sport.
Not about what grades you get,
how smart you are, or how smart everyone else thinks you are.
Not the least about how smart “standardized tests” say you are.
It's not about representing your whole being on a piece of paper,
and seeing who will accept the “written you".

Life just ain’t about any of these.....

But life is about who you love and who you hurt.
It's about who you make happy or unhappy purposefully.
It's about keeping or betraying trust.
It's about friendship, used as sanctity, or as a weapon.
It's about what you say and mean, maybe hurtful, maybe heartening.
It's about what judgments you pass and why.
And who your judgments are spread to.

It's about who you've ignored with full control and intention.
It's about jealousy, fear, pain, ignorance, and revenge.
It's about carrying inner hate and love,
letting it grow and spreading it.

But most of all,
it's about using your life to touch or poison other people's hearts
in such a way that could never have occurred alone....
Only you choose the way these hearts are affected,
and those choices are what life is all about....


Taken from: link

A Dozen Ways to Get to Know Your Real Partner

The Signs Are All Around You

I found this article in Yahoo.com - link
Useful i think for us to know our partners better.

Here are the dozen indicators:

1. Protocol: First or Second? Whether it's walking through a door, ordering dinner, or taking a bite out of the freshly baked cookies you have made together, if your partner always have to go first this could indicate self- centeredness. Are you willing to always be the giver?

2. Politics: Liberal or Conservative? How your partner views what is right or wrong in a political sense tells you a lot about his deep inner beliefs about society, and ultimately, the way he will approach your relationship issues. Will his views cause a rift in your relationship?

3. Television: Sitcoms or News? If his tendency is to watch "escape" TV programs versus "newsy/event" oriented ones, you can learn a lot about one's intellect. Do you want a mate who can keep up with your every day interest in what is going on in the world or a person you can run away with to avoid the world we live in?

4. Money: Flash or Stash? If your partner throws money around while dating, he might well be reckless with your joint finances when you move in together. Do you want to hook up with a tightwad or splurger?

5. Stress: Freak or Peak? Under Pressure, does he go to pieces or rise to the top of his game? If the answer is the former, every minor incident in your relationship might become a crisis. Do you like a lot of drama?

6. Conversation: About You or Him? As you first get to know each other does he always talk about himself first or you? If he is usually the topic priority do not expect that to change. Can you subordinate yourself to the world revolving around him?

7. Pets: Warm or Aloof? Believe it or not, the way in which he treats animals will not be dissimilar to how he treats your children. How do you want him to treat your loved ones?

8. Communication: Listens or Ignores? If you have something you want to talk about and he tunes you out as a general rule, can you cope?

9. Strangers: Kind or Rude? How he treats those they do not know (waiters, grocery clerks) often reflects on how he will treat people in general, including you, shortly after the glow wears off.

10. Priorities: Family or Work? You can tell almost immediately where a person's preferences lie in terms of what comes first (a family member's illness or a business trip) by the choices he makes when faced with an "either/or" situation. Do you care if he leaves on the next plane to present the such-and-such report if you or the kids have pneumonia?

11. Appearance: Fat or Fit? How he regards his appearance screams loudly about his sense of self-esteem. Those who eat sensibly, workout reasonably, and who take pride in their appearance are the ones who have a great sense of self. Does he really have self-confidence or might it be a front?

12. Faith: Strong or Weak? If you want a peak at his soul, learn more about his spirituality, or lack of it. What a person believes deep down is often what shapes the way in which they conduct their day-to-day affairs. What is your mate's "words to live by?"

Too Busy to Notice You're Too Busy

I found this while bloghopping. Very interesting that makes me wanna share this with you

“In the Name of Allah Most Gracious, Most Merciful”

Everyday as i wake up at dawn
My mind start working the moment i yawn
There were many things to do, o dear!
That’s why i hastily did my Subuh prayer
I didn’t have the time to sit longer to
praise the Lord
To me rushing out after prayer is nothing odd…

Since school, i had been busy every minute
Completing my tutorials and handing it in
My ECAs took up most of my time always
No time did i have to Allah to pray
Too many things to do and zikir is rare
For Allah, I really had no time to spare..

When i grew up and started my career
Working all day to secure my future
When I reached home, I prefered to have fun
I chatted on the phone but i didn’t read the Quran
I spent too much time surfing the Internet
Sad to say, my faith was falling flat…

The only time i have left is weekends
During which i prefer window shopping with friends
I couldn’t spare time to go to the mosque
I’m too busy, that’s the BIG EXCUSE…

I did my five prayers but did so quickly
After prayer, I didn’t sit longer to reflect quietly
I didn’t have time to help the needy ones
I was loaded with work as my precious time runs

No time at all to visit a sick Muslim friend
To orphans and elderly, I hardly lent a hand
I’m too busy to do community service
When there were gatherings, I helped the least

My life was already full of stress
So i didn’t counsel a Muslim in distress
I didn’t spend much time with my family
B’coz i thought, doing so is a waste of time…

No time to share with non-Muslim about Islam
Even though I know, inviting causes no harm
No time to do Sunnah prayers at all
All these contribute to my imaan’s fall..

I’m busy here and busy there
I’ve no time at all, that’s all i care
I went for religious lessons, just once in awhile
Coz i’m too busy making a pile…

I worked all day and i slept all night
Too tired for Tahajjud and it seemed not right
To me, earning a living was already tough
so i only did basic deeds but that’s not enough..

No time at all, to admire God’s creation
No time to praise All_h and seek His Compassion
Although I know how short is my life
For Islam, I really didn’t strive..

Finally the day comes, when the Lord calls for me
And I stood before Him with my Life’s History

I feel so guilty b’coz i should have prayed more
Isn’t that what a Muslim lives for?
To thank Allah and do more good deeds
And the Quran is for us all to read..

Now at Judgement Day, I’m starting to fret
I’ve wasted my life but it’s too late to regret
My entry to Paradise depend on my good behaviour
But i’ve not done enough nor did proper prayer

My “good deed book” is given from my right
An angel opened my “book” and read out my plight.
Then the angel chided me….

“O You Muslim servant, you are the one,
Who is given enough time, yet not much is done
Do you know that your faith is loose?
saying “no time” is only an excuse.
Your “good deed book” should be filled up more
with all the good work you stood up for..

Hence, I only recorded those little good deeds
As I say this, I know your eyes will mist..
I was about to write some more, you see
But i did not have, THE TIME to list”…….

THE END..

Source: Saffawati

I also found this interesting article, about being too busy in our daily routine, that we somehow forgot how not to be busy, and to have time to spend with family, friends, health and time to relax. A very good, inspiring article I must say. Read it here. Pls read it.

I'm gonna be more manageable with my work, my time and my life. I will try to make the most of my time. Azam baru 2009. Read here for tips of time management.

Time flies away. We're getting older day by day. You might wanna ask yourselves, how do you use your time? Did you use it wisely? Think about it ...

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Sebenarnya aku xtau kat mana tpt ni, mungkin perlu google map la nnt. Warehouse adalah kegemaran aku..haha seperti Babe juga, tapi perlu berpada2 la.. nak kejar sumenye mmg xmampu kan. Mostly warehouse sale ni buat di PJ/Subang. Kawasan2 ni aku xfamiliar.

Azam tahun baru - mahu buat bajet yg mencabar diri aku..wah mampukah?

Hari raya, kuih raya dan dadih (raya?)

Raya thn ni, mmg berbeza dari tahun2 sebelumnya.

Setiap tahun, kita pastinya mempunyai pengalaman yg berbeza2 menyambut raya.

Ok, kita mula dgn cerita sebelum raya, iaitu masa berpuasa :D

Aktiviti baru tahun ini adalah...

Menjual kuih raya dan kerepek (yeah, u heard me right) :p

Mempunyai jiran2 yang sangat aktif berniaga, iaitu mempunyai kemahiran membuat kuih raya dan kerepek, sememangnya membuatkan saya juga menjadi mangsa (mangsa ke??) dan terjebak (ok, mungkin perkataan ini agak over) dalam kancah perniagaan mereka. Bukan sahaja menjadi pembeli setia, malahan kuih2 raya dan kerepek yg unik itu juga di bawa ke opis utk dipasarkan.. haha

Pengalaman baru, melihat gelagat2 org yg mahu/tidak mahu membeli :p

Saya sangat bernasib baik apabila kuih2 yg dijual oleh jiran2 saya itu adalah sedap2 belaka. Malangnya sample xbanyak, jadi ramai xdpt merasai kehebatan kuih2 itu. Sungguh kasihan. Kalau tidak, sudah tentu kuih2 itu menghiasi meja2 utk dibelasah oleh tetamu yg datang.

Ini adalah biskut choc meringue, biskut paling sedap yg penah dirasai. Sekali makan, pasti nak lagi

Ini pula, kerepek kacang peas. Sgt sedap dan lemak berkrim. Tempahan dibuka sepanjang tahun :D

Dua2 kuih dan kerepek ni mmg dh jadi kuih wajib di rumah. Ini sudah tentu menggembirakan jiran2 tersebut, kerana kuih2nya mendapat sambutan, malahan sudah sampai ke KL :p. Ya, raya thn ini sungguh bermakna. Jiran2 tersenyum gembira menerima tempahan2 kuih raya :p

Saya cuma mampu membuat kuih cornflakes sahaja, itu pun satu adunan sahaja, yang sudahpun kosong di dalam balang akibat kerakusan ahli2 keluarga lain :p
Tiada gambar kuih raya, rugi sungguh.

Secara umumnya, usaha dikerahkan lebih kepada membersihkan rumah.
Ya, rumah itu sungguh mencabar kesabaran. Setiap inci perlu dikemaskan. Sungguh penat. Tapi kerjasama adik beradik ternyata memberikan hasil (tapi selepas raya ini, tak tahulah bagaimana rupa rumah itu sekarang)

Di dapur, telah ditambah kabinet utk memudahkan penyimpanan barang.
Juga ditambah spice rack dan apa2 saja yg perlu. Harapan masih tinggi bahawa selepas raya, dapur itu masih cantik. Saya akan buat spot-check minggu depan ya ibu. :D

Spice rack itu

Menjelang raya, kg saya sudahpun riuh rendah dgn saudara mara.
Juadah wajib setiap tahun= lemang+rendang

Lemang2 tersebut, sedia menanti kami

Percaya atau tidak, saya masih belum melihat gambar2 kami semasa hari raya tempoh hari. Kamera digital telah dibawa lari oleh adik ke Johor. maka tiada gambar raya boleh diletakkan di sini. Sungguh sedih. Adik, pulangkan segera kamera itu!!

Bila pulang dari kampung, teringat saya kepada serbuk dadih segera perasa jagung yg dibeli dahulu. Maka tangan ini terasa rajin membuat dadih, inilah hasilnya.



Dadih2 itu, terasa seperti agar2. Terima kasih kepada cadangan yg lain utk meletakkan agar2 di dalam dadih itu, sehingga menjadi seperti agar2.

Isk, dadih percubaan kali ini=perlu diperbaiki lagi.

Ok, sambung lagi di waktu akan datang. Perlu menelefon adik tentang gambar2 raya tersebut. Daa

Finding and celebrating the joy in life

Each day is a new chance to find joy and to dance.
If you let it pass or think it useless, the chance is gone and you'll never get it back.

When was the last time you played?

Or just did something for the sheer fun of it?

Joy is not found in the world around you, it's within yourself.
You can make your own joy, especially during those dark times when you need to really feel alive again.

Fun and play are healthy antidotes to taking life--and ourselves--too seriously.
They're proven boosters of immune systems and mental health and make life worth the trouble.
So do the twist. Sing in the shower. Learn a magic trick.
Watch a cartoon. Challenge some kids to a game.

Don't let a single day go to waste.

Life is too short to be wasted..

For more info, click here