Something brilliant !!

I got this email from a website that I subscribed few years ago..
masa tu busan2, and rajin nk cari tips in relationship ni :D

Just wanna share:

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Do you consistently choose the "wrong" partners? If so, it's time to break the pattern. Life is too short to spend it waiting for an unavailable person to change.

Dear xxxx,

Last week, I got a call from a distraught woman named Michelle. Early 40's, attractive, intelligent, funny - and utterly demoralized by this guy that she'd been seeing. They had a passionate first month, and then, after one awkward conversation, he pulled away. But not fully. He would still send her regular texts saying that he missed her - although he didn't actually DO anything to make plans with her.

Having read my advice before, Michelle set up a coaching call to find out how she could get this guy back.

Since Michelle knew a lot about nutrition, I decided to communicate with her in metaphors she'd easily understand. I told her that the super-attractive guys with whom she felt the most chemistry were like fried foods - they may taste really good, but, in the long run, they're really bad for you.

Her immediate reaction was to protest, "But nice guys are so boring!"

"So are vegetables," I said. "but if you want to live a long, healthy life, you can't do better than eating healthy. If you think that you're going to be the one person who doesn't get heart disease on a steady diet of bad food, you've got another thing coming."

She laughed. "But I LIKE bad food."

"EVERYBODY likes bad food," I reminded her. "But if you want to know the main reason that you're single, it's because you keep on eating steak every night and are continually shocked that you don't lose weight. Steak is always gonna be bad for you. Hot, emotionally unavailable guys will, too."

That conversation was four days ago.

Here's what Michelle wrote to me this morning:

Hello Evan;

I cannot begin to tell you what a difference our conversation has made in my life. I am so extremely grateful to you. I walked into two of my clients houses yesterday and they said, "What's his name?" Because they said I was glowing and luminous. They've only seen me look like that before when I was infatuated with a new man. But I now feel this way because a huge weight has been lifted and I have a new path and outlook for my future. Do you have any idea how HUGE that is? I hope I just gave you the compliment of the year because that is BIG stuff; to make that kind of a difference with one phone conversation. And I'm a tough sell... so take the compliment :)

I've already made changes and "cleaned house". There's a couple guys that still text me that before talking to you, I would occasionally go out with, simply because they're hot and funny, but they have big problems I overlooked before. I'm no longer going to date them.

I have several men that I didn't give a chance to, simply because I didn't think they were sexy enough. I'm reconnecting with them. Last night I started talking to a guy who seems GREAT and is handsome, funny and seems really sincere. Prior to talking to you, I wouldn't have gone out with him simply because he is 5′ 8″. I now think that's silly and I'm definitely going to go on a date with him.

I just can't even tell you. I'm a new person. You got through like know one else has ever been able to. I'm sure I'll need another session soon, just to make sure I get on the right track with the next guy I date... but you showed me that my only problem has been chasing "lust", not life partners.

xoxo

Michelle

This email literally brought tears to my eyes. Such a radical change - in just one phone call!

I feel very fortunate to have the opportunity to produce breakthrough results for special women and men who want more power and control over their love lives.

So if you're confused about the current state of your relationship... if you wonder whether you're investing time in the right partner or wasting time with the wrong one...if you are concerned that time is passing and you're no closer to happiness than you were a year ago, don't hesitate.

Source: http://www.evanmarckatz.com/dating-coaching/

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Yup, love/relationship pun ada coach nya :D hehe

Sometimes site ni mmg bagi tips2 yg menarik, especially on tips how to find your true love, what to do when you want to get the man's attention, what to do when you are on a date etc
Yg sesuai, boleh la follow. Yg over2 tu, sila simpan sendiri ok :p

Komen:

1) super-attractive guys with whom she felt the most chemistry were like fried foods - they may taste really good, but, in the long run, they're really bad for you.

Komen : Hehe most of the times, this is sooo true. Attractive guys selalunya tahu yg dia adalah hensem/ramai peminat/menjadi perhatian di mana2, maka mereka selalunya tidak begitu menghargai
perempuan2 di sisi. Slalunya, perempuan yg tergila2/buat mcm2 utk lelaki type2 cmni. Lelaki cmni xyah banyak usaha sgt, perempuan mmg dtg sendiri. Tp part yg susah, bile dh ade serious relationship. Kalo la perempuan tu xbape lawa sgt, mmg tahap kejelesan xdpt dikawal la. Akan selalu rase insecure. Walaupun cmtu, xsemua laki ensem cmni. Ada yg bertuah, dpt la laki ensem yg baik. Bertuah la kamu ye.

2) if you want to live a long, healthy life, you can't do better than eating healthy. If you think that you're going to be the one person who doesn't get heart disease on a steady diet of bad food, you've got another thing coming

Komen: Ada betulnya juga :p . Yup, nice guys memang boring. Sbb baik sgt, terlalu ikut kata, buat semuanya utk kita happy. Tp kalau la kita selalu sgt amik fast food (metaphor dlm email ni), eventually it will hurt us, in the long run.

3) "EVERYBODY likes bad food," "But if you want to know the main reason that you're single, it's because you keep on eating steak every night and are continually shocked that you don't lose weight. Steak is always gonna be bad for you. Hot, emotionally unavailable guys will, too."

Komen: Yes, so true. Girls are easily attracted to bad boys. Bad boys ni selalunya macho2, ada style yg menyebabkan perempuan suka :p. Naughty, berani. Flirty. Sapa yg tak tertarik kan. Tp, kalau kita tertarik pada org yg salah, mmg memakan diri. Asik kita yg terkejar2..ape ke halnye kan?

Aku suka tindakan yg Michelle buat. Memberi peluang pada lelaki2 yg berminat. Ambil masa kenali mereka, sbb selalunya, pandangan pertama ni xleh pakai sgt. Mmg luaran nampak laki tu xensem, unattractive, tp bila dh kenal, dia ni kelakar, caring etc. So better bg peluang dulu, keluar makan2, borak2..mana tau lama2 sangkut kan :p

Aku bisa membuatmu jatuh cinta kepadaku
Meski kau tak cinta... kepadaku
Beri sedikit waktu...
Biar cinta datang karena telah terbiasa
~Risalah Hati-Dewa 19

Love is a mysterious thing. Sometimes love comes softly :)

Beauty is Pain

The pain passes, but the beauty remains
~Pierre-Auguste Renoir

Last Saturday, I finally admit that beauty is pain.. haha
Berjalan2 di Mid Valley, dan terasa mau bergaya cantik, maka aku pun memakai kasut tumit setinggi 4 inci..dan hasilnya..

xsampai 2 jam..kaki aku dh sakit.
Tahniah kepada kaki dan kasut baru aku tu.
Nampaknya kasut tu cuma akan aku pakai sekali sekala sajalah.
Kasihan kamu kasut. Tapi aku kasihan lagi pada kaki aku :p

Walaupun pabila memakai kasut setinggi itu, membuatkan aku nampak tinggi, kaki panjang ala2 model, tp akibatnya (selepas pakai selama 4 jam) ..

- tapak kaki sgt sakit
- bila bangun pagi.. sakit pinggang plak

tahniah..tahniah sekali lagi kepada aku yg mahu kelihatan cantik :p

Tp bila aku pk2 balik..banyak lg mende2 lain yg org buat, utk cantik.
Nak tau?

Contohnya:
1) wax
xkira la.bikini wax ke, brazilian wax ke, tp ttp sakit.
Model2 msti dh lali sume mende ni. nak kulit badan selicin mungkin..maka perlu la bertahan dgn kesakitan yg dialami ye? :)

2) facial treatment
bg perempuan yg sgt menjaga kecantikan muka, mestilah dorang ada mencuba/register pakej2 utk wat facial. Sekali sebulan contohnya.
Igt wat facial xsakit ke? Aku siap mengalir2 air mata tau masa org tu wat extraction!
Pas abis facial, muka bengkak skit, merah2..haha
What to do, nak muka cantik, tahan jela ye? :p

3) pakaian pembentukan badan
Ini pun satu lagi kegemaran perempuan :p
Kalo nak pakai kebaya, kalo pakai girdle, bengkung..mmg mantap ah badan. haha inilah rahsia wanita. Disebabkan baju2 sebegini ada pelbagai jenis, sila pilih yang ada infra red ok. Premium Beautiful contohnya, walaupun mahal, tp berkesan.Cuma kena rajin la. kalo pakai seminggu sekali, xde kesan la beb. Sendiri mau pk ok

4) Pembedahan kosmetik
E.g:Liposuction
Aku xtau la ni sakit ke x..tp aku mengandaikan ia adalah sakit.
Tgk Nip/Tuck, siap ada org mati lg. Sungguh mengerikan
Pembedahan kosmetik yg lain, for sure sakit. Bayangkan breast kene bedah. Azab yg amat.
Aku dulu kene bedah sbb nk buang lump di breast pun, dh terseksa (scar smpai skang xbley ilang..huhu). Sila la jgn buat ni semua ok.
Ambil cth 'The Biggest Loser' .. 327 pounds pun bole turun 129 pounds, maka jadikanlah itu sebagai pembakar semangat ok. Bersukurlah dgn apa yg ada.. xya besarkan, kecilkan, mancungkan, tegangkan. Terimalah seadanya. Maintainlah ia dgn cara yg betul (exercise, healthy diet, detox)

5) Diet
Mmg la kan, bile berat dah naik, kita ni pun risau, mula la diet berbagai cara.
Xmakan nasi la, amik buah n sayuran.
Aku penah try ni sume, tp ended up aku jadi emosi (sbb lapa kot)
Beauty is pain. Sampai sanggup xmakan. Sunggguh menakutkan.
Berpada2 la ok kawan2. Exercise is still the better way to lose weight + control diet :)

Wat masa ni..tu jela yg aku dpt fikirkan. Beauty is pain, I know.
Selagi masih muda ni, marilah kita menjaga kecantikan kita dgn cara yg betul

good skincare+exercise regularly+detox+eat healthily

Daa

Yang benar,
Aku yg masih mencuba menjaga kecantikan dgn cara yg betul :)

Bukan kesempatan yang terlewat

Aku ni sepatutnya menjadi seorang yang casual romantic (menurut facebook la)
patutnya xlayan sgt romantik2 ni,
patutnya kadar sensitiviti adalah rendah

tapi..
tapi..

aku sgt tersentuh, mmg mudah tersentuh..
bila aku lihat cerita/video klip seperti ini






bukan kesempatan yang terlewat..

aku suka tgk movie pasal hal2 mcm ni,
contohnya the lake house, with love (japan), dan ade la beberapa movie korea yang aku minat

tentang kebetulan dan juga kesempatan

tentang takdir yang menemukan dua insan, dalam situasi yg sangat tak logik,
tp itulah takdir mereka sebenarnya

aku sebenarnya dlm diam, sgt percaya, yang cinta tu, akan dtg sendiri.
it has it's own way, to reach to you

mmg ramai yang kata,
"ko xboleh diam je, ko kene usaha"
mmg, xde mende yang senang dlm dunia ni
sumer mende kene usaha,
tp, being "casual romantic" la kunun,
kan bagus kalau sumer tu terjadi dgn sendirinya,
dlm keadaan yang aku pun xsangka ia patut terjadi

dan kesempatan selalunya tak dtg dua kali,
ni mmg betul
bukan hanya utk cinta, tp utk semua aspek kehidupan

Kalau saja aku masih punya kesempatan yang sama

Atau semua yang pernah terjadi bisa terulang lagi

Tapi ternyata kesempatan yang ada hanya sekali

Sampai kini masih kutunggu datangnya keajaiban

Yang mungkin saja bisa memberiku waktu satu kali lagi

Seandainya masih bisa kudapatkan sekali lagi, satu kali lagi

Masih tertunda dan belum semua kukatakan

Biar kutunggu sampai kau kembali lagi disini

Harus kau dengar, semuanya harus kau dengarkan

Isi hatiku, tentang hatiku yang perlu kusampaikan

Ternyata tak semudah itu keinginan bisa terjadi

Tapi ku berharap semoga masih ada kesempatan

Sekali lagi… [Sekali Lagi by Ipang]

Indah kan..

harap keindahan ni akan berlaku pada aku :)

Aminn